We are living in an era of hyper-independence, and it runs counter to our evolutionary wiring to depend on others. In trying to correct patterns of over-dependence and co-dependence, non-therapist, TikTok-certified experts have pushed many people toward the opposite extreme: hyper-independence. A state where you don’t need anyone for anything.Where you become “unrecognizable” or “invincible.”Or, when dating, you arrive armed with a list of non-negotiable requirements meant to

I have avoided writing this post for a while now—distracting myself with “more urgent” things that needed to be done. Wondering if it is too personal. All different and highly sophisticated forms of avoidance. Yes, it is a personal post. Yes, I have many urgent things to get done. And yes, I am optimistic this post will find the people who need to read it. My dad passed away in 2024, leaving behind an abyss that sometimes feels unfathomable. So much so that I can go days with